FAFO’s parenting is the latest tendency to encourage ‘natural consequences’ for child behavior’

If you see a gentle parent everywhere ICK has given you, don’t worry.

A new trend is growing – ‘f – k around and discover. “

Known in 2025 as Fafo on social media, the parenting style encourages children to ‘discover’ the natural consequences of their behavior for which they have been warned against (as long as they are not in serious risk).

“Authoritarian parenting but with a Subgenre Fafo”

For example, a child may refuse to eat their dinner just to realize that they are hungry later, or want to go out without a jacket and, surprisingly, to cool.

The creator of Tiktok hey.im.Janelle first shared her experience with Fafo’s parents again in 2022, and recently has gained much more attention as parents return to negotiations and discussions (often shelter) accompanied by parents of soft.

“I practice authorizing parenting, but within what I would consider a subgenre I would call ‘f*ck around and discover’ parenting … [kids] Take their natural consequences and get to understand the way through them, ”Kanelle explains in her video.

Then she gives an example when she put Fafo’s parents in action.

“This weekend I first took my baby by camping with cube scouts. At one point, it was raining quite hard and the kids were all playing alone in camping. My son decided to no longer wear jacket his rain. ”

Janelle said the decision ultimately belonged to him and she told her that she would not offer a new shirt if she was wet. Within 10 minutes, he realized what had happened and had to deal with the result.

She indicates that if she had any real security concern or danger of “dangerous” consequences, she would not solve faafo.

Most followers were quick to support her approach and shared their experiences.

“I love that. That’s what we do. My children are safe and kind and thinner! You’re doing well! “Wrote a viewer.

Another said, “because sometimes the best learning is not a lecture, it is experience. To learn from mistakes is how we grow up.”

“Fafo is my predetermined style”

I’ve always believed in Fafo, and now that my son is almost 18, I can say that for us, it’s worked.

He usually responded very quickly to the tactic, having seen the natural consequences of his behavior.

WorkDen worked on everything, not doing your homework or studying for a test, and disappointing in results, having a friend, tell him your glowing breath when he overlooked the washing in the morning.

As my son grew up, I would say, “This is my advice to you and I promise it is fine. XXX will happen if you don’t make a wise choice. But it is up to you. “

After all is that children can block words at best, and even more so when they are told what to do.

This is a truth that I accepted early – maybe because that’s how I got parents.

Possible Parenting Fafo Parents

Of course, Fafo can have unexpected consequences, or severe natural consequences, so it’s definitely a matter of evaluating the degree of possible results – and security comes first.

For example, driving when your child is not wearing a seat belt in order to make them do so, surely will not end well.

This is more a Fafo lesson for you.

Almost my adult is now learning to drive and wants his music while he does it; This is not even a Fafo situation.

That’s not a big one from me.

I would also say that you create complete indifference, to the point that you make your child think that you do not care for them or their safety, it is an opportunity to consider – it depends on your child and you know your best.

So, in my nearly 18 -year -old parenting experience, I would recommend this: let the warning, explain what can go wrong, then, safely, let them leave them.